I recently listened to Brene Brown. To be honest, I disagree with some of what she had to say, but I liked her https://daretolead.brenebrown.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/Values.pdf worksheet.
The idea that most people have two values or traits that drive them is pretty spot on. I've been using a variant of that as a replacement for alignment in some games.
But I was reflecting on that recently. I'd bet that my wife is right when she says my personal motivating values are curiosity and loyalty.
Her values are diligence and kindness. I was reflecting on that as I thought about the three things I used to tell my kids.
Be kind, work hard, tell the truth.
It hit me that while I'm motivated by curiosity and loyalty, I value kindness and diligence, if that makes sense. And it is no surprise that the two I value the most are the two that define my wife.
It has been giving me thought.
For game (and conflict resolution -- see adrr.com) purposes, I have been defining values in the trait pairs.
Traits:
- Chaste....... /.....Lustful
- Energetic.... /.....Lazy
- Forgiving.... /.....Vengeful
- Generous... /.....Selfish
- Honest...... /.....Deceitful
- Just......... /.....Arbitrary
- Merciful.... /.....Cruel
- Modest....... /.....Proud
- Pious........ /.....Worldly
- Prudent..... /.....Reckless
- Temperate /.....Indulgent
- Reliable.... /.....Feckless
- Trusting.... /.....Suspicious
- Valorous... /.....Cowardly
But, in Mistworld, I really have positive versions and twisted or malfunctioning versions.
Eg. Brave .... / .... Cautious would be the real replacement for 14, above, with;
Foolhardy .../ .... Cowardly as the twisted versions. That allows me to recognize that there is a positive form of valorous and a negative form, a positive form of cautious and a cowardly form. It perhaps means that the list needs some modification (e.g. Prudent/Reckless overlaps with Foolhardy/Cowardly).
I've been using the system by having players pick five of these (out of 28) to define their characters, with one that is more significant than the others. I probably need to rethink the list somewhat and work out each of the pairs into sets of two pairs (the positive and the negative versions).
But I'm rethinking it all.