Values

 I recently listened to Brene Brown. To be honest, I disagree with some of what she had to say, but I liked her https://daretolead.brenebrown.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/Values.pdf worksheet.

See also the discussion at https://blog.colinbreck.com/understanding-our-core-values-an-exercise-for-individuals-and-teams/#:~:text=In%20Dare%20to%20Lead%2C%20Bren%C3%A9%20presents%20a%20list%20of%20values,travel%2C%20wealth%2C%20and%20wisdom.

The idea that most people have two values or traits that drive them is pretty spot on. I've been using a variant of that as a replacement for alignment in some games.

But I was reflecting on that recently. I'd bet that my wife is right when she says my personal motivating values are curiosity and loyalty.

Her values are diligence and kindness. I was reflecting on that as I thought about the three things I used to tell my kids.

Be kind, work hard, tell the truth.

It hit me that while I'm motivated by curiosity and loyalty, I value kindness and diligence, if that makes sense. And it is no surprise that the two I value the most are the two that define my wife.

It has been giving me thought.

For game (and conflict resolution -- see adrr.com) purposes, I have been defining values in the trait pairs.

Traits:

1. Chaste.......  /.....Lustful
2. Energetic.... /.....Lazy
3. Forgiving.... /.....Vengeful
4. Generous... /.....Selfish
5. Honest......  /.....Deceitful
6. Just.........    /.....Arbitrary
7. Merciful....   /.....Cruel
8. Modest....... /.....Proud
9. Pious........   /.....Worldly
10. Prudent.....  /.....Reckless
11. Temperate  /.....Indulgent
12. Reliable....   /.....Feckless
13. Trusting....  /.....Suspicious
14. Valorous...  /.....Cowardly

But, in Mistworld, I really have positive versions and twisted or malfunctioning versions.

Eg.  Brave .... / .... Cautious would be the real replacement for 14, above, with;

   Foolhardy .../ .... Cowardly as the twisted versions.  That allows me to recognize that there is a positive form of valorous and a negative form, a positive form of cautious and a cowardly form.  It perhaps means that the list needs some modification (e.g. Prudent/Reckless overlaps with Foolhardy/Cowardly).  

I've been using the system by having players pick five of these (out of 28) to define their characters, with one that is more significant than the others.  I probably need to rethink the list somewhat and work out each of the pairs into sets of two pairs (the positive and the negative versions).

But I'm rethinking it all.